“Why Fit In When You Were Born to Stand Out?” - Dr. Seuss

I am going to keep this one short and sweet. I am wrapped in a blanket, by the fireplace, enjoying a quiet house and a glass of red wine. A rare moment for a family of five. A moment I am cherishing.

Reflecting on our week…it was a hard one. Activities such as fold a load of laundry, attend a dance class or finish a school assignment used to be so simple and often taken for grant it (because they were so simple). Now such events are an accomplishment and something we celebrate.

I cannot help but wonder (like my daughter or others that might walk in our shoes), “Why?”, “Why us?” and “How Come?” We may never understand the “why” or “how come”….but we can embrace it. (And “we” is myself, my husband, my daughter, my other two children, family, friends and everyone else reading this blog right now that journey alongside us.) Often I want to be mad at the world, curl up in a ball and pull the sheets over my head. And many have told me I deserve to feel this way and even tried to convince me TO feel this way. BUT, being mad and sad are not going to get me anywhere and certainly not a productive or positive role model for my children.

I was reminded of a Dr. Seuss quote I often reflect on when struggling to be at peace and meet my daughter where she is at. Quote is - “Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” Our daughter reminds us everyday that instead of being sick…she is special. Instead of being just like everyone else…she is not. Instead of following others…she is paving her own way. I can be mad…I can be sad…or I can be thankful. Thankful for lessons that remind us what is really important and gratitude (not just the gratitude we say, but gratitude we feel).

Our daughter drafted a message this week that will be attached to a new bear that will soon be available to children admitted to a local mental health hospital (our daughter’s idea based on her own experience and stay - see previous blog post, “A Promise Not to Forget the Other Children”). Message reads…

"I know you might feel small, confused, scared and alone.

I know because I have walked in your shoes.

I want you to know you are not alone and how important YOU are.

Whenever you need…

a little comfort,

a little safe.

a little brave,

just remember that we are thinking of YOU and sending you lots of LOVE.

Know you are braver and stronger than you think or feel.  Truly believe how special you are and the amazing things you will do!”

I hope this blog and message from our daughter (an 11-year-old girl) might bring you or someone you love a bit of peace and comfort. Remember, you and/or your child/loved one were born to stand out. Hold tight to the idea…be proud of it…embrace it. It makes it easier.